While there are reasons a dime a dozen people (myself included) will point to when explaining why we struggle to feel fulfilled—in our careers, our relationships, and even when we’re simply alone—the one I’ve observed time and time again is this: we hardly know who we are.

And that makes everything harder. Because if you don’t know who you are, how are you supposed to create a life you love?

Regardless of my client’s situation, I’m always tuned in to hearing what you want. Not what your friends want. Not what your family wants. Not what your partner wants. Not what society expects. And certainly not the parts of your mind that don’t have your best interests in mind.